I Was Kicked Out of My Home When I Was a Teen | One Word | Cut

– [Interviewer] Why were you kicked out? – Mainly just because
of like, doin’ drugs, skippin’ class, not
communicating with my dad. We got into a couple of fist fights, and then there was one
big one, and that was when he called the police and had
me escorted off the premises. They literally dropped me off, like, 10 blocks down the road,
and they were just like, “we don’t know where you wanna go, “but you can’t go home.” (light music) – [Interviewer] Home. – Home. – [Interviewer] What’s a word you think of when you hear home? – Comfortable. – Peace. – Warm. – Warm. – [Interviewer] Why do you say warm? – Sometimes I didn’t have a
home, and it was cold outside. When I’m home now, I’m
like, “it’s warm in here,” because I can make it warm. – [Interviewer] Is home
where your mother lives? – Home is not where my mother lives. My mom abandoned us, so it
was my younger brother and I, pushed into adulthood, right at 18. I live by myself right now, and home to me is a place that I can
completely be myself and relax, and know things are stable. – [Interviewer] Home. – My grandma. My grandparents have always
kinda taken care of me. My family has always been, like, homeless. And we used to live in
motels, we live in the car at one point in time. But in my freshman year of high school, after we finally lost the
last house we ever lived in, my grandparents took me in. They’ve always been there for me. – [Interviewer] Why were
you kicked out of your home? – Well I was living with my
grandparents, and my mom. And my mom decided that she
was going to get married and move out of state, so
I just had to figure out what I was gonna do. – [Interviewer] What
about your grandparents? Why didn’t you stay with them? – I don’t think they want
me there, to be honest. I mean, even now I talk about how my lease is about to be up, and
I don’t really wanna go into another one,
and they’re telling me I can figure it out, and so. I’m still tryna figure that out, now. – [Interviewer] Why were you kicked out? – Mainly just because of like,
doin’ drugs, skippin’ class, stayin’ out late, not
communicating with my dad. – At that time, I was kind of
getting into drugs and stuff. I had a secret boyfriend
that they didn’t know. And so, I was doing a lot of typical teenage rebellion behavior,
but it came to the point of kicking out because we
had a relationship conflict. – Me and my mom had never gotten along. One night she was kind of in a mood, and she told me I couldn’t
go out, and I asked her why. And she just felt like the
question was disrespectful, my mom was very strict,
and she told me to leave. So I took the opportunity and
I left and I never came back. – I remember specifically, this
is the incident that did it. I snuck my girlfriend into
my grandparent’s house, on a school night, and my
grandpa came home early and found us. And he started yelling and getting mad, my grandparents took my girlfriend home, and then told me to get my
stuff together to leave. – [Interviewer] Do you think
it was wrong, what they did? – I just didn’t understand
why, because they had always been the ones to take me
in, and so I was like, this is kind of the only place I have. – [Interviewer] What was the last thing your father said to you? – He said, “are you
sure you wanna do this?” I was at my back door and I was standing, and he was standing right
here, and he had the door in between us, and he was like, “are you sure you wanna do this?” And I said, “yes.” and then he just put his head
down and closed the door. – He called the police and had me escorted off the premises. They literally dropped me off
like 10 blocks down the road, and they were just like, “we
don’t know where you wanna go, “but you can’t go home.” – [Interviewer] Did they
offer anything to you? Were they like, “we can
take you to a shelter?” – Yeah, they said, “do you need anything?” I said “cigarettes, really, that’s it.” So he bought ’em for me,
gave me this little spiel about how this isn’t the
end, and you’re still young, and your dad just wants
what’s best for you. He gave me some confidence,
that was probably the best altercation I’ve had with
a police officer (laughs). – [Interviewer] Did
you have a place to go? – No. – [Interviewer] Why not? – I got embarrassed to ask my friends, so for a week I went to a women’s shelter, but my mom doesn’t know that. – I would stay with my friends, and they don’t actually know this, but some nights I would
feel really bad asking for a place to stay, and so I would sleep in my school’s auditorium
because it was so warm. And there was a bathroom
and a little water thing. – I spent like a year on the
streets, sleepin’ on concrete, missin’ meals and stuff. – [Interviewer] Why couldn’t
you move in with a friend? – I exhausted all my options. They were family to me,
but they were still livin’ with their parents, and
their parents didn’t want to shelter some homeless
kid that was doin’ drugs in high school, and doesn’t really have any morals or ethics. I mean, I did, but that’s not
how they saw me, you know. They just see some homeless punk. – I used to sleep under the bridge, and you could hear the
water, and it’s like, why would you sleep
under the bridge though, ’cause it’s the coldest place, but it was the safest
place that I had to go. – [Interviewer] What do you
remember about the bridge? – I used to throw rocks off of it, or throw paper airplanes with little notes off of it into the water. I would go and climb down to the bridge and sit by the rocks near the water, it was just really peaceful. – [Interviewer] Do you miss it sometimes? – Kind of. I think I do miss it in the
sense that it reminds me of a safe place to be. – [Interviewer] What’s your home now? – My house on Grant Street. That is my home. I live with Curt, Laughlin, and Nathan, shouts out to you guys. When I was homeless they
were the ones feeding me, clothing me, sheltering me,
I definitely would’ve not gotten out of that situation
if it wasn’t for my friends, my family. – [Interviewer] So what’s
the first word you think of when I say family? – Just one word? Love. At the end of the day,
if you’ve hurt somebody and they still show love to you, I believe that’s family. – [Interviewer] Family. – Friends. Just because they support
me, and they help me through a lot of bad times. And also if I need anything,
they would be there for me. – [Interviewer] Why haven’t you mentioned your biological family? – I just feel like they
haven’t really supported me as much as my friends do. – I’ve created my own
family, with my friends. These people have been there for me, and proven it over and over again. – [Interviewer] Do you
consider your mom family? – I do. My mom is family. – [Interviewer] But why is she
different from your friends? – My mom broke my heart. I loved her so much. And when she disappeared,
I felt like my whole, entire stability just ripped apart. – [Interviewer] Do you
have any other people you consider family,
outside of your blood? – No, not really. – [Interviewer] Who do you
think you’re the closest to, in your family? – Well in the past it
was definitely my mom, but now, I don’t know. I kinda just stick to myself
to be completely honest. – [Interviewer] Family. – My mother. My mother was also
homeless in the same town, living in a car with
her husband, my stepdad. And a few nights, when I
didn’t have anywhere to be, they let me come and sleep in the car. And I really appreciated
that, because even though I had put my mom down for
so long for the lifestyle that she was living, she
still always took me in. And so we kind of rebuilt
our bond on the fact that we were both homeless
and going through it. – [Interviewer] How did you
make peace with your dad? Or did you make peace? – I apologized. (laughs) I apologized. It took big balls to go up
to this old man, and say, “I’m sorry, this is my fault, I did this.” And at that moment he said, “that’s all I wanted you to learn,” and we hugged it out
and we love each other indefinitely now. – [Interviewer] Where do you live now? – I live in Tacoma in my
apartment with my new girlfriend. Our very first apartment,
we pay for the rent and everything, and it’s
my home, definitely. – [Interviewer] How has your life changed? – Through all the heartbreak
that I went through, my life is amazing now. I don’t think I’d be the same person today if I didn’t go through that. And it might be horrible to say, but I wouldn’t take it back. – [Interviewer] How has your life changed since your mom moved away? – I really feel like it’s all me, and I have to Google how to do everything, I hafta go pay rent and cook for myself. Just, there’s not a mom to
come home and decompress to, and make her do things for me, so. – [Interviewer] Are you worried? – A little bit. My job is kinda iffy, so. I don’t know what I’m gonna
do a year from now, at all. – [Interviewer] How has your life changed? – I’m healthier, I went back to school, graduated top of my class. My relationship with my father’s great, I’m just a well-rounded individual, you can throw me in the jungle
now and I’ll come out alive!

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