Dying at home

Dying at home

It was the best death. It was the best death. My time here is done, you know. We’ve all got a number. We’ve all got a number. Everyone will die once. So we have to get it right the first time. Positivity… is what it’s all about. You can get through anything. I’m Mike Bell. And I’m now living in Perth. I was diagnosed with Stage 4 kidney cancer. And as it panned out, I went to see the oncologist and he told me it was terminal. Want me to throw it? Once he told me he said, well I’m sorry to you/ And I said, it’s not your fault. Most people will tell us they want to die at home. That’s our primary focus in this care provision. They’re working 24 hours a day, they’re not on call, they’re actually out and about in the suburbs driving their Silver Chain cars, responding to calls. Hi Carol! Come in, come in. Hi Susy! How are you? Your home, your own environment. You’re here, and you get treated in your own home environment. And you’re not – not just another patient. Come and have a sit here. Susy grab a seat if you will. Nothing is just too much. Nothing is too much, and that is what helps you. So how’s your pain at the moment? Oh, probably about a two or three, Carol. We visit frequently, and regularly. If there is – depending on the need. We have counsellors, chaplains, volunteers, social workers, doctors, care aids as well as nurses. Life still goes on, while you’re dying. Bills need to be paid, fridge needs to be filled. All those things. And we have a lot of carers and volunteers who help with that. That’s all good, Mike, Yeah? I think we just travel with them. We don’t interfere with what their wishes are but we support them to achieve their goal. Go out with a bang, that’s what I say. Just enjoy, ya! Lindy was my soulmate. Lindy and I had known each other since 1972. I was the happiest man in the world. Look at the smiles. Even laughing at our wedding, look at this. And we had Amy, and Marie Anne. We had such a great family bod. It was just wonderful. The hardest part now, is Amy. Because of the fact that she’s lost her mum not too long ago and now… She’s going to lose me. And it makes it so hard. When Lindy went, she had been in good hands. Carol was there, and now I’ve got Carol. Carol’s looking after me. I’d sooner be in my own environment then be in the hospital and that’s exactly what Lindy wanted to do as well. She got her wish. She got her wish, and that’s my wish. It’s humane, it’s the most humane way for you to die. If you could choose to die like that, you should. Well, Geoff and I have been married – we would have been married 42 years this year. In fact a month after he died we were 42 years married. He was a great adventurer. His dream would’ve been to go up Everest in a t-shirt without oxygen in sandshoes. Gorgeous one here, I love this one. Calli’s looking so lovingly up at him, Geoff was denying that he was going to die. So he didn’t want to die, but he knew that he was going to underneath it all. But he didn’t want to talk about it. But it was a very open discussion about the fact we weren’t going to go and have more treatment. There is this excessive push for the miracle treatment that might work, and if we did this to Geoff and we did that to Geoff, and we could zap him with this and you know really, tha’ts not helpful.

10 thoughts on “Dying at home

  1. If this hits home for you, watch Griefwalker and look up the order of the good death. No one should have to die soaking in their own shit and piss in a hospital room hooked up to machines.

  2. If you're gonna die you should at least get to choose how you go. Personally I'd like to go out with a bang and fireworks.

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